Life at different times

Society puts you on a clock in every aspect of your life, taking you off course.

We are all programmed to think about our lives in imaginary time blocks of when we should do certain things.

• Marriage.
• Kids.
• Starting a business.
• Buying a house.
• And a million other things…

In reality, that’s exactly what’s killing your dreams. Your energy. That pressure comes from all sides:

You’re pressured to follow a specific path in life when, in reality, you should be paving your own path. One that no one has walked before.

I met a lady named Debra in Italy a few weeks ago.

Debra was 56 years old when she decided to give life another go in another country.

She and her husband of 20+ years decided to go their separate ways. Debra wanted to do life differently this time around. Her own way. Not what society, friends, parents, or anyone else is telling her to do it.

So…

• She started learning a new language.

• Started a new career as a teacher in a new country.

• Getting acquainted with the culture in a new country.

• Re-marrying someone (after 7 years) that makes her happy.

She didn’t rush anything. Age had truly just become a number to her. She was feeling better than she ever felt before. She took her time and focused on herself.

She came to a point in her life where she realized that society will always put pressure on how and when you do things, but learning to disengage from that is one of the biggest challenges. There’s a lot more life on the other side of that pressure and “time” illusion that everyone tells you.

My girlfriend and I spent 45 minutes talking to her at the coffee shop. I felt her energy. Her happiness. Her outlook on life was different in so many ways. She is doing things she wished she could do earlier in life.

It was beautiful to see.

We are all tied to these numbers of when we should do things.

• You need to do this in 4 years.

• You need to grow your business in 1 year, or it’s dead.

• You need x amount of dollars in the bank by this age.

All of that is artificial BS. It’s not reality.

It’s what feeds your stress and anxiety every day.

We’ve been brainwashed to think in these blocks of time. With all the other life things going on, we allow ourselves to be programmed to some imaginary bullshit schedule.

What happened to moving at the beat of your own drum? Not someone else’s. Or some societal power-force that doesn’t exist.

For years and years, people put themselves on an imaginary clock. We adapt to a template on how we should do life.

These blanket ideas and notions that manipulate us to follow are killing our dreams and aspirations. Doing something at a time in your life that’s not part of the norm is considered weird or unusual. You get that weird look from people.

There is a resistance that pulls you toward what everyone else wants you to do vs. what your body and mind are telling you to do.

The raw truth is that you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do, and you can do whatever you want to do on your own time.

• I know people that have kids at 40 years old.

• I had friends that got pregnant in high school.

• I know people that don’t care about driving a car.

• I know people who live completely off the grid.

• I know people that have gone back to school at age 50.

And these people tend to be the happiest. They have a different perspective on life and how they want to live it.

We all get to choose what we want to do — step to the beat of our own drum, not someone else’s.

It’s your life. You decide what feels right.

Keep in mind:

If you wake up tomorrow and you want to wear a black turtleneck and a beret, go do that. Don’t let anyone talk you out of it. Just Live.